All my life I have struggled with the need to be accepted. I put too much value in what other people said about me.
Instead of being myself I would try to be someone I thought others would like. I hid the real me because I thought if people knew who I really was they wouldn’t want to be my friend anymore.
Most of the time I felt invisible. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me “You’re so quiet!” I would be driving a freaking Ferrari.
But seriously, these are the kind of things I was told on a regular basis:
“Wow, I’ve never heard you say so many words at once!”
“Why don’t you ever talk?”
“Oh sorry! I didn’t see you, you’re SO quiet!”
“I forgot you were here….”
“You’re so boring.”
“Speak up, I can barely hear you.”
“You just need to socialize more and then you won’t be so bad at it.”
So yes, after a while it got to me, and I thought “I guess this is who I am.”
Never able to make a difference because I was invisible…
One of my childhood ‘friends’ told me “The only reason I hang out with you is because there’s no one else.”
They may not have realized the affect their words had on me. But, it hurt, and I let them hurt me, over and over again.
As I grew up, I discovered who I am, and where my worth is found. I am a child of the Most High King, and He created me to be just as I am. That is my true identity.
If you knew me a few years ago you know that I have changed a bit. I came out of my shell, so to speak. I let people see all my weirdness, and guess what?!?! I still have friends who accept and love me for who I am.
If people don’t like me, I’m finally okay with that.
The truth is, PEOPLE ARE JERKS!
They’re gonna say stuff about you, and try to bring you down, and make you think you’re a certain way. IGNORE THEM! Be yourself. I don’t care who you are, everyone needs to be reminded of this from time to time.
If you’re an extrovert, you may be told that you talk too much, you’re obnoxious, loud, and outspoken.
If you’re an introvert, you may be told that you don’t talk enough, you’re boring, stuck up, and are somehow broken because you don’t know how to “socialize” properly.
They will always find something to judge you for and then use it to tear you down.
Don’t let other people decide who you are.
Yahweh created you to be you, if that means you’re quiet and shy there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! If it means you’re loud and outgoing, there’s nothing wrong with that either! If we were all the same this world would be so boring.
So embrace your quirks and everything that makes you who you are. Don’t try to be something you’re not, you’re only cheating yourself if you do that.
Until next time, my lovely people!
“Be who you are, and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” -Dr. Suess