The Importance of Being Genuine

“Authenticity is not something we have or don’t have. It’s a practice — a concious choice of how we want to live. Authenitcity is a collection of choices we have to make everyday. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” –Brene Brown

Dear Readers,

Today I want to explain why I think being genuine is so important.

Sometimes when you’re going about life you just feel like a failure. You begin to think that everyone else has it all together, but they don’t. If you say that everything is perfect and you have your life completely figured out and there’s never any complications, well, you’re lying. The truth is, none of us really know what the heck we’re doing.

Maybe you’re in high school and you’re getting behind and feel stressed because you still don’t know exactly what you want to do with your life, you haven’t found your calling, you don’t know what you’re truly passionate about yet, and it seems like everyone else just knows and is working toward their goal. Time is ticking. You feel stuck.

Maybe you’re a new mom trying to get a grip on motherhood and you feel like a failure because it’s hard, and sometimes you yell at your kids and feel like locking yourself in a closet with a package of oreos instead of changing the 20th diaper of the day. The kids don’t listen, they scream, they fight, the days seem to last forever, and you’re counting down the minutes until bedtime so you can sit and enjoy the silence. But you don’t want to complain because It seems like everyone else knows how to do this mom thing. It seems so easy, but it’s not.

Maybe you’re starting a new job and you get upset with yourself when you don’t catch on to things right away. Everyone else knows how to do it right, so you feel like an idiot.

Maybe you just feel like an awkward weirdo and you struggle to make friends and you feel alone and out of place. Maybe you have peculiar hobbies that you’re embarrassed to talk about because you think it’ll make you look stupid.

Maybe you find it hard to work out and eat healthy. Everyone is always going on about how great it makes them feel. but personally you feel like you’ve just been hit by a train, and you’d rather eat a donut than kale chips and kombucha.

Maybe you struggle with reading your bible and taking time to pray every day, and you feel like a terrible person, like God must be so disappointed in you. Everyone else clearly reads their bible and studies it every day, right?! I mean they even take the time to put it on their social media, and brag about it so I mean *obviously*

Well, my friends, I am here today to tell you that it’s okay. These struggles are real, and even when it seems like nobody else has them, they do. Trust me.

To the high-school students who are stressed about getting behind and not knowing what their calling is: you’re gonna find it, I promise. Yahweh has amazing plans for your life, so keep pushing through!

To the exhausted moms who feel like failures: You’re doing an amazing job! Your kids think you’re the bomb! When they grow up they’re not gonna remember the messy house or how you yelled at them after you stepped on their legos. They’re gonna remember the amazing way that you showed love to them, and all those precious memories, because that’s what motherhood is all about.

To those who have a hard time adjusting to a new job: You’re doing great! Just keep on keeping on, you’ll get the hang of it eventually.

To those who struggle fitting in: Everyone feels out of place at one point or another! It’s hard to fit in, so stop trying. Just be yourself. Keep enjoying your weird hobbies, (even if they’re super weird, like arm knitting or geocaching) you do you! Don’t be ashamed.

To the people who have a hard time living a healthy lifestyle: Just accept the fact that it’s not an easy thing to do, even though people make it seem like it is, at one point I’m sure they felt crappy after a workout and even craved donuts! *gasp*

To the ones who find it hard to read your bible every day: Yahweh is not disappointed in you! He loves you, and He’s so proud of you for having a desire to know His word and seek Him. We all have days when it feels difficult, just do your best!

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It seems these days all we ever see or hear about is all the great things that are happening in everyone’s lives. There is nothing wrong with sharing your accomplishments or being proud of something you did, but if that’s all we ever talk about it starts to seem fake. What if we also shared the things we’re not proud of?

If I’m being honest,  I trip over my own words and my own feet, I’m very clumsy, (once I even fell in a lake in front of like thirty people… Twas very humiliating) I say stupid awkward things, I’m actually pretty terrible at doing makeup and nails, my hair is a crazy mess 83% of the time, sometimes I forget to brush my teeth, I sing the wrong lyrics to songs, I take things too personally, I hate running (and most exercises for that matter), my dance moves are pretty embarassing, sometimes I enjoy young adult novels more than classics (go ahead and shame me), I don’t have my driver’s license yet (even though I’m eighteen years old, and most of my friends got theirs ages ago), sometimes I still listen to the Highschool Musical Soundtracks (and watch the movies), I have trouble accepting compliments, sometimes my biggest accomplishment in a day is wearing matching socks, I get cranky and irritated, I have social anxiety, I take too many naps, and I say the word “crap” entirely too much (especially for a lady).

Let’s stop taking ourselves too seriously!

Being real is about being relational. What I’m not saying is that we should complain all the time, and obviously, discretion is still very important, (some things just don’t need to be said out loud!) and of course, we should always be kind. But I guess my point is, we are called to build each other up, no man is an island. How can we do that if we feel alone in our struggles?

Countless times I’ve found it comforting to find that other people share my experiences.

Being real is very important in all kinds of relationships. Just to tell someone how you’re feeling about something, or being able to communicate if there’s a problem is crucial! Instead of pretending like everything is okay all the time and talking about pointless shallow things. Ain’t nobody got time for that sugar-coated nonsense!

So let’s be more open! Keep sharing your accomplishments, but maybe share some real, raw everyday life as well? Instagram your laundry that’s been waiting to be folded all week, admit when you fail, laugh at yourself when you trip over your own feet! Be genuine in your relationships, don’t be ashamed to talk about the things you have a hard time with, and maybe, just maybe, we’ll be able to relate to each other, and we can encourage one another in this crazy, messy thing called life.

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This plastic world needs more sincerity! More people willing to be genuine about themselves and the people around them. Writing this blog I think has helped me tremendously to step out of my comfort zone, make myself vulnerable, and be more real. It’s not an easy thing to be like “Hey everybody! Come read about the deepest parts of my soul!” but it’s liberating.

The truth is, we are all imperfect and flawed. It’s so much easier to hide behind a mask and pretend we don’t have issues, but everyone has scars and bruises. We were born to be real, not perfect.

I would rather people like me for who I really am than for who they think I am.

“I want to be remembered as someone who was sincere. Even if I made mistakes, they were made in sincerity. I can deal with a person who was wrong, as long as they were sincere.” -Unknown

Sincerely, Bri

I’ve Been Worried All My Life

I’m pinned under the weight
Of what I believed would keep me safe.
So show me where my armor ends,
Show me where my skin begins.
Like a final puzzle piece
It all makes perfect sense to me…
The heaviness that I hold in my heart belongs to gravity.
The heaviness that I hold in my heart’s been crushing me.

I’ve been worried all my life,
A nervous wreck most of the time.
I’ve always been afraid of heights,
Of falling backwards, falling backwards.
I’ve been worried all my life…

-Pluto, Sleeping at Last

Dear Readers,

I’ve written a little bit about this and probably mentioned it in a few of my other posts. First of all, I would like to say that this post is not attention seeking. It is simply another struggle of mine. Not everyone wants to talk about these kinds of things, especially online, where most of what we see is everyone’s highlight reel. But, that’s not what I’m about, this is raw honesty. I’m not looking for pity, my goal is to just be real because that’s what this blog is all about.

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Home Is Where My Heart Is

Dear Readers,

There’s the story I have heard quite a bit from the majority of people I know. It goes something like this: “I was born in this state, in this town, and I grew up in the house. I took my first steps in this house, and on the wall, there are markings of my height that kept track of how I grew throughout the years. I celebrated all of my birthdays here. My best friend lives down the street and we’ve known each other since we were three years old. This is my home, I can’t imagine living anywhere else.”

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L O V E L Y

“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” -Maya Angelou

Dear Readers,

Today’s post is about positive body image and self-love. I know it’s talked about a lot, sometimes over-talked about, but that doesn’t make it any less important. Some people make fun of it, but that’s because they don’t understand it. Things like eating disorders are a legitimate problem, and should never be taken lightly. All the talk about “loving yourself” might sound kinda silly, and it can get to a point where it’s just self-absorption. But, coming from someone who has struggled with self-hate, this is my take on it.

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Adventures in Road-Tripping

|| “The mountains are calling, and I must go.” -John Muir ||

Dear Readers,

Oh hey, it’s February! I know I haven’t been posting much, and I promise there’s a good reason for it. I’ve been…. busy… Oh, ya know just, moving halfway across the country with my family. I wish I could blame all my lack of writing on that, but I admit, part of it is just procrastination, (too many episodes of Psych tbh) It’s not because I don’t enjoy writing this blog, I really do! But sometimes I even procrastinate things I love doing.  I haven’t even written in any of my journals in several weeks… *gasp*

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Soar

 

Why do you complain, Jacob?
    Why do you say, Israel,
“My way is hidden from the Lord;
    my cause is disregarded by my God”?
Do you not know?
    Have you not heard?
The Lord is the everlasting God,
    the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He will not grow tired or weary,
    and his understanding no one can fathom.
He gives strength to the weary
    and increases the power of the weak.
Even youths grow tired and weary,
    and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the Lord
    will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
    they will run and not grow weary,
    they will walk and not be faint.

-Isaiah 40:27-31

Sometimes in life, things happen that I don’t understand. My automatic response is to worry and overthink things until I’m so stressed out I can’t even function properly. I know You don’t want that for me. You always have Your hands extended to me, but sometimes I’m too stubborn and prideful to take them. I want to think I can do things on my own, but clearly, I can’t. Without You, I can’t take a single breath, let alone try to sort out my problems. You have told me so many times to cast my burdens on You, why have I not listened? Abba help me to trust You, even when I can not see. Even when I don’t know what will happen or where I’ll end up, I’ll trust You. Even though people have let me down and broken my trust so many times, I’ll trust You. For You Abba, are trustworthy, You have never let me down. You have never given me a reason not to put my faith in You……

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What I Learned In 2017

Dear Readers,

I don’t even know where to start. 2017 was quite a year for me…

There has been a lot of loss and heartache, but also a lot of joy. I made some of the most beautiful memories of my life this year.

However, it did not start well.. A couple of friends passed away over the span of the first few weeks… That was really hard and sad for everyone.

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There Is No Light Without Love

Dear Readers,

In honor of Hanukkah, I wanted to write about one of the common themes of the holiday, which is light. I see the saying “Be The Light” plastered all over the internet.. Especially around this time of year. But what does it actually mean? How can we effectively be a “light”?

John 13:34-35 says “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”

They will know us by our love.

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A Tribute To My Brother on His 20th Birthday

He was there from the very beginning. I have never known a life without my brother.

He taught me so much… Starting with climbing out of my crib when I was an infant, which later led to climbing up ladders and jumping off of them, and then climbing out the window onto the roof, climbing trees.. etc. (yeah, there was a lot of climbing involved in my childhood..lol)

He taught me just how fun (and painful) it is to go down the stairs in a laundry basket. He also hit me in the head with a metal baseball bat, which really really hurt….

You know it’s a miracle I’m still alive and fully functioning… (that last part might be questionable though… lol jk)

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